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Dear Abby: Aging mom refuses to discuss the inevitable

Published Sun, 29 Dec 2024 12:35:53 GMT

Dear Abby: My mom turns 85 this year. When my father died of congestive heart failure 10 years ago, our family had a clear understanding of Dad’s wishes about the end-of-life care he wanted. We knew he didn’t want “heroic measures,” like a feeding tube or to be on a ventilator. Since Dad had been sick for a few years and he was open to these discussions, Mom felt confident making choices for his care when he could no longer communicate his wishes.With Mom, it is a completely different story. She refuses to have conversations about this with my siblings and me, and accuses us of being “morbid.” Although she has a will, she has made no decisions about a proxy or for her care. Do you have any suggestions for how we can help Mom feel more comfortable having these conversations and documenting her wishes? — Loving, Not Morbid, DaughterDear Daughter: Offer your mother resources that normalize discussions about end-of-life wishes and care. Helping ...

1-year-old killed in North County shooting identified

Published Sun, 29 Dec 2024 12:35:53 GMT

FALLBROOK, Calif. -- A 1-year-old girl who was accidentally shot and killed by her 3-year-old sibling has been identified, authorities said.Jessa Osmera was announced as the deceased, Lt. Joseph Jarjura with the San Diego County Sheriff's Department said in a news release Thursday.The shooting occurred Monday around 7:30 a.m. in the 1100 block of South Stagecoach Lane, according to law enforcement.When deputies arrived on scene, they found Osmera with a head injury. Carlsbad Unified School District passes ‘diversity, equity, inclusion, and belonging’ plan Authorities determined Osmera's sibling got ahold of an unsecured gun and shot the 1-year-old.The victim was taken to a hospital where she died from her injuries, the sheriff's department said. There were no other injuries in the shooting.Detectives continue to investigate as no arrests have been made at this time.The name of the 3-year-old will not be released.Anyone with information about this incident is asked to call the Hom...

What to stream this weekend: Steph Curry doc, Greta Van Fleet, ‘Justified,’ ‘Minx’ and Pikmin

Published Sun, 29 Dec 2024 12:35:53 GMT

A documentary on Apple TV+ that chronicles the atypical path Stephen Curry took to becoming a basketball legend plus new tunes from the rock band Greta Van Fleet are among the new television, movies, music and games headed to a device near you.Among the offerings worth your time as selected by The Associated Press’ entertainment journalists are Laura McGann’s documentary “The Deepest Breath” which plunges into the world of free diving and Starz has given the workplace comedy “Minx” a new home and a berth for season two.NEW MOVIES TO STREAM— Laura McGann’s documentary “The Deepest Breath” plunges into the world of free diving, a sometimes deadly sport in which divers descend into watery depths with only a nose plug to defend from fluctuations in air pressure. The film, which made a well-reviewed debut at the Sundance Film Festival in January, premiered Wednesday on Netflix. It’s an immersive descent into a silent underwater realm and the risk-takers compelled to sink themselves...

Mother and 3 children dead in possible Oklahoma murder-suicide

Published Sun, 29 Dec 2024 12:35:53 GMT

VERDEGRIS, Okla. (AP) — A woman and her three children were found dead in an Oklahoma home on Thursday evening in what may be a murder-suicide following an hours-long standoff, authorities said.The names of the victims weren’t immediately released.The standoff began in the small town of Verdigris, a suburb east of Tulsa, after a woman told a patrolling police officer at around 4 p.m. that another woman with a gun held her hostage in a garage, Police Chief Jack Shackleford said, KOKI-TV reported.The woman also said there were children in the home and the officer called for reinforcements, Shackleford said.Several agencies surrounded the house, including a SWAT team from the Cherokee Nation.Authorities entered the home around 7:30 p.m. and found the bodies of the woman and three children, believed to range in age from several months to around 11 years old.A handgun was found at the scene and the killings are being investigated as a murder-suicide, authorities said.Shackleford sa...

Autocratic Cambodian leader paving way for son, a West Point graduate with PhD in economics, to rule

Published Sun, 29 Dec 2024 12:35:53 GMT

PHNOM PENH, Cambodia (AP) — Cambodia’s Hun Sen has been his country’s autocratic prime minister for nearly four decades, during which the opposition has been stifled and the country has grown increasingly close to China.With his Cambodian People’s Party virtually guaranteed another landslide victory in this Sunday’s election, it’s hard to imagine dramatic change on the horizon. But the 70-year-old former communist Khmer Rouge fighter and Asia’s longest-serving leader says he is ready to hand the premiership to his oldest son, Hun Manet, a four-star general who heads the country’s army.A graduate of the U.S. Military Academy at West Point, Hun Manet, 45, also has a master’s degree from NYU and a doctorate in economics from Britain’s Bristol University. His speeches tend to broadly praise his father’s government but are short on specifics about issues, so it’s hard to know if his background may portend political change.But it will take work for the ...

Sunak’s Conservatives suffer big defeats but avoid a wipeout in trio of UK special elections

Published Sun, 29 Dec 2024 12:35:53 GMT

LONDON (AP) — Britain’s governing Conservative Party avoided a drubbing Friday in a trio of special elections, managing to hold onto former premier Boris Johnson’s seat in suburban London.Though the main opposition Labour Party and the smaller centrist Liberal Democrats overturned massive Conservative majorities to win a seat apiece, the Conservatives found some crumbs of comfort in their narrow success in Uxbridge and South Ruislip in west London.Labour won the seat of Selby and Ainsty in northern England while the Liberal Democrats took Somerton and Frome in southwest England, with voters from both parties clearly backing the party most likely to beat the Conservative candidate.Facing this level of tactical voting by voters, the defeats will leave many Conservative lawmakers rattled ahead of the likely national vote next year.The defeats don’t mean a change of government, since the Conservatives still have a big majority in the House of Commons. Opinion polls have been...

Rescue efforts have resumed in western India where a landslide killed at least 16 people

Published Sun, 29 Dec 2024 12:35:53 GMT

RAIGAD, India (AP) — Rescue efforts resumed Friday after an overnight halt in India’s western Maharashtra state where a landslide triggered by torrential rains killed at least 16 people, with many others feared trapped under debris, officials said.Scores of rescuers and trained trekkers have been deployed to find people trapped by the landslide, which occurred late Wednesday night, the state’s deputy chief minister Devendra Fadnavis tweeted. Harsh weather conditions have hampered rescue efforts and authorities have sent in medical teams to help the injured, he added.Search operations were suspended on Thursday night due to heavy rainfall plus the threat of further landslides in the dark, said a statement by the National Disaster Response Force.While 75 people have been rescued, many others are still stuck, an official told the Press Trust of India news agency.The landslide hit the Irshalwadi village in Raigad district and buried 17 of the 50 houses there. The hilly terrain has...

Northeast floods devastate ‘heartbroken’ farmers as months of labor and crops are swept away

Published Sun, 29 Dec 2024 12:35:53 GMT

Well before it was warm enough to plant seedlings in the ground, farmer Micah Barritt began nursing crops like watermelon, eggplant and tomatoes — eventually transplanting them from his greenhouse into rich Vermont soil, hoping for a bountiful fall harvest.Within a few hours last week, those hopes were washed away when flood waters inundated the small farm, destroying a harvest with a value he estimated at $250,000. He still hopes to replant short-season crops like mustard greens, spinach, bok choy and kale“The loss of the crops is a very tangible way to measure the flood, but the loss of the work is hard to measure,” said Barritt, one of five co-owners of Diggers’ Mirth Collective Farm in Burlington, Vermont. “We’re all grieving and heartbroken because of this.”That heartbreak was felt by farmers in several Northeast states after floods dealt a devastating blow at the worst possible time, when many plants were too early to harvest, but are now too late to replant in the region’s ab...

DeSantis takes his presidential campaign to Utah, a heavily GOP state where Trump has struggled

Published Sun, 29 Dec 2024 12:35:53 GMT

SALT LAKE CITY (AP) — Ron DeSantis is taking his presidential campaign to Utah on Friday, prioritizing a state where rival Donald Trump has struggled in the past and that could be a beacon of strength for the Florida governor’s stalled bid.DeSantis is set to appear at the state Capitol with about a dozen supportive state lawmakers, meet with Republican Gov. Spencer Cox and attend a fundraiser.His trip out West comes as he has been working to reset a campaign confronting financial pressures and a static position in the field trailing Trump. The former president has remained a front-runner despite his mounting legal problems, including an expected indictment in a Justice Department investigation into his efforts to overturn the 2020 election.“The more people see Governor DeSantis and hear his forward-thinking plan for our nation’s comeback, the more inspired they become to vote for him for president,” campaign spokesperson Andrew Romeo said in a statement.For DeSantis, the abili...

Actors and writers strikes enter second week with no signs of a deal to get Hollywood working again

Published Sun, 29 Dec 2024 12:35:53 GMT

LOS ANGELES (AP) — The combined strike by Hollywood actors and screenwriters is entering its second week with no sign that a swift ending will be achieved.For a week, actors including household names like Tina Fey, Kevin Bacon and wife Kyra Sedgwick, Rosario Dawson, David Duchovny and other stars have joined working class performers and writers on picket lines outside studios and corporate offices of streaming giants Amazon, MAX and Netflix.The actors’ regular appearance on picket lines has provided additional starpower and voices on issues that are key to both groups — better pay and preserving established practices like residual payments, as well as protection from the use of artificial intelligence. Roughly 65,000 actors — the vast majority of whom don’t make enough from acting to qualify for health benefits through their guild — along with 11,500 screenwriters, are on strike.While many of the picket lines are in Los Angeles and New York, film and television productio...